21DAYS OF SELF LOVE
Come ride this 21-day love train with me! I’ll fill your Love Tank to overflowing with uplifting messages, inspiring action steps,
heartfelt love notes and more. Together, we’ll discover your worth!
Recharge Your Love Tank In Just 21 Days!
Attract more love into your life
Have more success in connecting with the RIGHT people!
Know how to set boundaries without feeling bad
Be content and confident in your own skin
Live with less fear and more passion!
What’s a Love Tank?
Your Love Tank is your inner reservoir of positive emotion. It’s the well from which you draw to do everything else in your life – to make decisions, to work, to attract/deflect influences into your life, to build relationships … everything. When your Love Tank is full, you feel open, energized, confident, and self-assured. When your Love Tank is low, you feel anxious, self-conscious, guarded and depressed. My 21 Days of Self Love course is designed to give your Love Tank not just a refill, but to overfill it so it spills into every aspect of your life!
Your Love Tank Might Need A Refill If You:
- Keep clashing with the wrong people, over and over again. That includes dating!
- Feel pessimistic about your future, and jealous of other people’s “good luck”
- Feel lonely, even when you’re not alone
- Don’t have enough close friends in your life
- Lost your passion for life somewhere along the way
- Just don’t feel like yourself any more
What’s the difference between a full Love Tank and an empty Love Tank?
Whether or not your Love Tank is full makes a huge difference in your life. Your Love Tank is like the mountain you stand on to look out on everything else in your world. When it’s full, you see possibilities. When it’s empty, you see obstacles. Here’s a little story to show you what I mean.
An elderly grandmother lives with her daughter, son-in-law and their two children. When she first moved in, she didn’t know where she fit in so she talked to her daughter about how she could help out. (When your Love Tank is full, you’re not afraid to have difficult conversations.)
She decided even though she was away from her friends, there was a lot of love right here. She now gets up every morning in gratitude and makes a big breakfast for all of them. Then she cleans up the whole mess after they leave for work and school.
Why does she do all this? Because she loves them and wants to help out in the mornings when everyone is so rushed for time. She’s a big help around the house and feels appreciated. She’s glad she gets to spend her golden years so close to her family. Her life is filled with purpose, meaning and love.
Her daughter and son-in-law love the freedom they have now that they have a live-in babysitter. Their marriage has even improved with all their new quality-time spent without the kids. Everyone in the family feels fortunate that Grandma lives with them.
An elderly grandmother lives with her daughter’s family because she’s not independent enough to live by herself anymore. She loves her daughter, but being with her all the time is grating on her nerves. The kids are too loud, and her son-in-law looks at her like she’s a nuisance, even though he doesn’t say anything.
She tries to just stay out of their way so she’s not more of a burden, so even though she’s surrounded by people, she’s always lonely.
The daughter loves her mom, but with her staying in her room all day, she’s not contributing anything to the family. The daughter sees her mom as one more person to take care of in an already overburdened schedule. And her mom seems so sad about the whole arrangement, it leaves a cloak of depression over the whole house.
What’s the difference? Perspective!
People who are full of love live lives full of love and happiness. People with empty Love Tanks emanate negative energy and get negative results.
Are you always looking for what’s wrong?
Your Love Tank is empty. Perhaps for years, even decades.
Or do you give and give but don’t FEEL loved in return? That’s another way fear tries to trick us. Fear tells us we “should” feel loved but if we told ourselves the truth, we don’t feel loved at all. Not really.
When your love tank is low, love is hard to find and hard to feel. And even harder to believe in.
Today was Day 21, and I truly cannot believe how far I have come in 3 weeks with loving myself. A few nights ago I took this self-portrait, and when I saw it, I saw the new me that loves herself. I made a print of it and put it on my mirror, because looking into my own eyes has never felt so good. I do not think I could have made this photo with this kind of peaceful knowing look on my face 3 weeks ago. Thank you all again and again for sharing this journey with me!
– Sharon Wharton
Your 21 Days of Self Love eventually got through to even me – old crusty me!
I’m a hard case, but I couldn’t resist your funny, creative, and heartfelt messages day after day telling me all the ways and reasons I should give myself permission to start loving myself.
You broke down every barrier to loving myself I had inside me.
In the beginning it was overwhelming, but ultimately I was singing along to the “I Feel Happy” song every morning, adding little love notes to my big flower vase, and noticing all the love coming my way.
What I realize is that you gave me 21 proactive behaviors that got me off my Wheel of Fear and onto my Wheel of Freedom. These are timeless ways to free me from fear. From fear to love!
It felt like you were writing personal notes to me for a month!
I love you Rhonda!
– Candace Brindley
Thank you so much for these 21 Days of Self Love. I wish I could get love notes from you everyday for the rest of my life (or at least until it really sinks in and I can do it on my own). You have certainly given us a strong foundation. My take away(s) for today are “If I never do another thing in my life I still matter” and “loving myself doesn’t mean I will be UP all the time” and “know when to get support no matter how you’re feeling.” Thank you for your support.
– Carlease Burke
Thank you so so much Rhonda! This class is taking me by the shoulder and turning me right to where I need to learn a HUMONGAS life lesson; If not the biggest one. The treasure trove of past memories and pain that came up showed me what I have been doing to myself. It revealed itself to me and I was a witness for myself.
What you showed me was where I was presuming and assuming, and then falling apart or crashing and burning. This is where I can be loving instead. Rhonda, these feelings and triggers are so strong and powerful. They are raw and gut wrenching. My reactions, my pain, my misunderstandings in the situations in my past have really created some of the most horrendous of times in my life. I didn’t know any other way, until now.
Thank you so much for your support Rhonda, it truly means the world to me.
– Susan Selix
I have been doing your 21 days of self love for about 3 months now. I have worked SO hard my whole life with Faith/Religion and Self-Help. I got your 21 days of self-love and it has revolutionized my life.
I wish everyone had this workshop because it is the core of what I have been struggling to achieve. I guess I believed for years that intellectually I had to love myself first before anyone could love me, BUT no one told me how. I kept asking and asking and asking and fighting and struggling. My life became about surrender/detachment that was more a mode of self-abandonment and judging myself when I asked to have wants and needs. I wish I could go on and on. I just wanted to say thank you because I just think your resonance for me has been miraculous.
– Ann Jeschke
Six days in to this practice, I notice that I am more conscious of my emotionally charged thoughts. I am talking myself through those little challenges instead of just reacting. I’m trying to give myself compassion instead of deciding that I ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ feel (whatever). Caring acceptance is what I’m going for!
Only one more day of this amazing course to go and I amaze myself that I have not missed a day. I have got so much from it. Some amazing synchronous events happening but the best thing is I am feeling so much better about me and I am allowing myself to be vulnerable. I am leadning to say no – still hard at times. There is always more to do. More copy of Fearless Living has arrived so can’t wait to get into that.
I’m really enjoying and appreciating these 21 Days of Love…. and the webinars are absolutely amazing and tremendously helpful. Thank you Rhonda!! On Day 13 today and really loved this from the Daily Love Note: “To feel secure from the inside out that is the real gift of self-love.” One of my self-love moments from the Love Jar is going for massages.
Thanks You Rhonda for teaching us how to love ourselves! And though I am more aware, I know I have just planted the seed to self-love. I learned that I will not always have that loving feeling or that I have to be perfect, but I am committed to loving myself no matter what, because I AM deserving of love. The real me is good enough … no more twisting myself into a pretzel for love. Please, continue to do what you do. You are a guiding light and an inspiration to all of us!!
I really liked my lesson today….my love jar is filling up! It made me look at the most simple jester of kindness/love, strangers waving or smiling at me, it changed my perspective from, feeling unappreciated and entitled to….being in a grateful state of mind. It is very blissful.
I love the new ideas I get each day. Today to shift my energy while recovering from yet another break-up is : I am resonating with my ideal lover. It feels soooooo good.
Rhonda, I love how you give us a whole different way of thinking that just makes so much sense! Thanks to you, I’m starting to say “I’m willing to forgive you” to myself before I meet people. It really helps to calm me down and remind me that even if they’re grumpy it doesn’t have to be personal to me.
My intention for the day:
I LOVE MYSELF so … I TAKE ACTION for MYSELF!
And one thing I’ve gotten from “21 days of love”? Above all, SUPPORT!!!
Before undertaking Rhonda’s coaching programmes, I did not realize how much support is vital if you want to succeed in everytthing you undertake, and especially when it comes to learn to love yourself… In the past, I was used to try to achieve things, even very important ones, all by myself… I know now that I’m stronger when I ask for and accept SUPPORT!
So a BIG “THANK YOU” to all the members of this beautiful community for your support!!!
Here’s what you get
21 Days of Love Notes from Me!
With uplifting, self-loving, fresh-baked messages to fill up your tank!
In-Depth videos for each module
Daily Support in the Community Group
Join the love-fest! Be surround yourself with people who are giving love freely – not those who are sucking it away!
Daily Love Lessons
Each day you’ll receive an action step that will help you integrate everything you’re learning to guarantee an overflowing Love Tank.
Transcripts of the Entire Course
So you can refer to it later or pass it along to someone who needs some love!
Yours to keep FOREVER!
To keep you accountable for your progress!
You won’t find love until you love yourself first! Recharge your Love Tank in Just 21 Days! Start the course today!
Who is this Course for?
If you find yourself feeling burned out and unappreciated, getting upset with yourself (and others) way too often, or aren’t sure how to respect yourself without the fear of rejection popping up, 21 Days of Self Love is the answer. It’s designed to show you how to love yourself even if those around you are trying to take advantage of you or you don’t think you deserve to be loved . You’ll not only learn how to fill up your Love Tank to feel centered and at peace but you’ll be able to give and receive love from an authentic place. And don’t worry, I will guide you with a gentle hand and compassionate style while giving you the full court press putting you into action almost immediately. Folks have felt loved up after the first class.
How do I know this will solve my (problem)?
This comes down to trust doesn’t it? If you are still reading this page, I bet you trust me and want me to convince you that I am trustworthy. I hope I’ve done that with the honest reviews on this page and scattered throughout the website plus the videos sharing who I am and my journey. But past that, this is a decision you have to make on your own. You have to make the decision to trust me to guide you on this journey of self love. Thousands of others have yet this decision is yours and yours alone.
Do I have to do 21 Days in a row? What if I miss a day?
No problem. There’s actually no such thing as getting behind because you’re in charge of the pace. Even though the intention of this Course is 21 Lessons in 21 days, we recognize that just like building your physical muscles, you may need a day or two of rest and integration during the next 21 days. If you need it, take it and then, jump back in. The more you stay focused on practicing each Love Lesson, the more you’ll get out of the Course. So go ahead, take 24 days or even 30 days…just keep going no matter what.
Can I take a break if I need to?
Of course. A program is no good if you are overwhelmed and find yourself beating yourself up. In every email, there will be a link to stop the sequence of emails at any time. Just remember, when you stop the emails, you won’t have your daily reminders to keep you focused on moving forward in loving yourself.
Can I share this program with a family member?
It’s important that each person who’s enrolled in the 21 Days of Self Love program makes a conscious decision to join and invest in their own growth. Feel free to share your results with the people you love but encourage them to invest in themselves. There is nothing that can replace a decision that says “YES I am ready to love myself” like a sign up for a class that can truly make a difference.
What do I get with the coaching emails?
Each day you will receive an inspirational email that includes the Topic of the Day and a Love Note that will put a huge smile on your face. Plus, you will get your “Love Lesson of the Day” that helps you integrate each day’s Topic. You’ll also be reminded to watch the next video and/or listen to the next audio (there’s four in all.) It’s important to download the audio mp3’s into your library so you can listen over and over again. We’ve thought of everything to keep you on track. No procrastination or slipping away in this Course.
Should I tell my therapist I'm doing this program?
If that supports you, sure. More therapists refer clients to me than coaches, speaker and authors combined. They know my stuff works, and they have your best interest at heart. So yes, please do. I have clients who actually share their daily homework with their therapists. I say, share away. The more support you have on your journey, the better.
Why should I use this program and not someone else’s?
Because I know what it feels like to NOT love myself. I was confused by the concept of self love for decades. I thought saying it was enough. Au contraire. Saying it and believing it and then, living it are vastly different. I know this self love terrain well. And, of course, I could also throw out a list of amazing things about myself like I overcame a twenty year horror story of my own or how I’ve met Oprah, twice, or I could tell you about the women’s lives I’ve changed in the Starting Over house that aired every day for three years on NBC. But come on, that isn’t important, right? It doesn’t matter really if Good Housekeeping has done a profile on me or I have been on The Today Show and blah blah blah, or my gosh darn Emmy win. What does matter is that you’re still reading this. You want me to convince you to join my program, convince you that you are worth giving the gift of self love to. But I’m not going to. YOU have to decide this one. Plus, there’s a 7 Day Guarantee or you get all your money back. All you have to do is show you tried by turning in the completed daily Love Lessons. So frankly, you got nothing to lose but that darn ol’ fear of yours.
What’s at risk if I don’t order right now?
Your self respect. Your self worth. Your ability to give and receive love. Let’s face it, you wouldn’t be here if this problem hasn’t been going on for a while so how long do you want it to last? This is what is true: I believe in you. And you have to decide to believe that I can get you to the other side. I’ve been coaching for over two decades and have thousands of people raising their hand saying ”this works.” So what’s at risk if you don’t? What’s at risk is that the problems that come from refusing to love yourself are just going to get bigger, and you’re gonna feel like you are drowning in it. Don’t go there. Grab my hand. Let’s do this.
What is intimidating about doing what you’re asking me to do?
First thing that should scare the pants off you is that it is 21 days focused on loving YOU. 21 days of lessons. 21 days of growing. 21 days of action. That is intimidating for so many people because they haven’t ever really done one thing for themselves for 21 days. But you know what I’m about to say: Change can’t happen unless you invest in yourself for a long enough period of time for it to take hold. So yes, 21 days can seem like an eternity but that’s why ultimately you take the Course at your own pace plus you have the coaches support and the community group and me right here. You won’t be alone so you won’t feel alone. We’ve got you.
How can you remove the intimidation for me?
This is why support is so important to me. I know what it’s like to be out there on your own swimming in deep water and trying to get to shore. I lived that way for 20 years, so I get it. I do. That’s why I send you daily reminders – so you stay focused – and why you watch the video or listen to the audio each day and grab the lesson of the day and ask questions inside the Course Learning Center. You don’t have to go a day without support. And don’t forget…what does all the support add up to? Integrating these new tools of self love into your life. They won’t do you any good if you don’t use them every day. I would rather save my breath than waste your time so if I am teaching it, it’s for a reason.
What happens when I order (list the steps)?
Once you order, you will receive a Welcome email outlining the things that will be delivered to your inbox on a daily basis, seven days a week, for the next 21 days. The daily emails officially begin on the day you sign up for the Course.
How are the materials delivered?
Each day you will receive an email delivered right to your inbox with the Topic of the Day, a Love Lesson and an inspirational Love Note as well as links to the Course login page because we know how important it is to have everything delivered right to your inbox. For your convenience, everything is inside the Course Learning Center that you can go to at any time to watch videos, download the audios, grab the Love Lessons and anything else you need. Oh and don’t forget, if the daily emails aren’t your best way to learn, you have the option of downloading the Love Book. The Love Book contains everything that’s inside the daily emails. To stop your daily emails, Just click the link on the bottom of any Course email.
How long do I have access to stuff?
Forever. I encourage you to download the Course audio mp3’s to your computer, so you have them handy to upload to the cloud or directly to your smartphone or tablet. And be sure to save a copy of the Love Book, too. I know you’ll want to review this Course again and again.
Can I talk with someone before ordering, if so how?
Sure. Call the office anytime. You’ll find our Customer Happiness Team ready and waiting to support you with any and all of your questions. Because our team has access to the Courses we offer, they know this Course inside and out. You can ask them anything.
How much time will I have to invest?
If you watch the video or listen to the audio each week, that’s an hour or two investment per week. Plus a few minutes each day reading your Topic of the Day and inspirational Love Note. Some days you will probably want to write some things down on your Daily Love Lesson Worksheets. How long you spend is up to you.
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