I see now that if I am rejected it is not personal, just that someone disagrees with my philosophies – and the rejection means that I am staying true to me (as opposed to mutating myself to please everyone else). An unbelievable eye-opener.
My relationships started to change too. Last summer I broke off a 5 year (very unhealthy, unloving) relationship. In it, I had mutated [myself] to get love, which never came. The result was that my partner and I had to sell a co-owned home around the holidays. I was able to nurture myself through that difficult and stressful process. As Rhonda taught me, “take care of yourself, be gentle with yourself.”